Domestic Violence Awareness Month

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Everyone deserves to have partners listen to what they want and need. Ask yourself:

  • Is my partner or the person I am dating kind to me and respectful of my choices?

  • Is my partner willing to talk openly when there are problems?

  • Does my partner give me space to spend time with other people?

  • Does my partner support my using birth control that’s best for me?

  • Does my partner support my decisions about if or when I want to have children?

If you answered YES to these questions, it is likely that you are in a healthy relationship. Studies show that this kind of relationship leads to better health, a longer life, and helps your children. 

1 in 4 women are hurt by a partner in their lifetime. Ask yourself:

  • Does my partner shame or humiliate me?

  • Does my relationship make me feel worse about myself?

  • Does my partner control where I go and how I spend my money?

  • Does my partner ever hurt, scare or threaten me with their words or actions?

  • Does my partner keep me from seeing my doctor or taking my medicine?

  • Does my partner mess with my birth control or try to get me pregnant when I don’t want to be?

  • Does my partner make me have sex when I don’t want to?

If you answered YES to any of these questions, your health and safety may be in danger. For help, talk with your health care provider, and call or text 1-800-636-6738

Everyone feels helpless at times and like nothing they do is right.

Sound Familiar? This can happen in relationships – especially ones that are unhealthy or unsafe. Connecting with friends or family who struggle in their relationships is so important.

You can make a difference by telling them they aren’t alone. “Hey, I’ve been there too and someone gave this card to me. It has ideas about places you can go for support and things you can do to be safer and healthier.”

And for you? Studies show when we help others we see the good in ourselves, too.

Ask yourself. Has my partner ever:

  • Tried to pressure me to get pregnant?

  • Hurt or threatened me because I didn’t agree to get pregnant?

If I’ve ever been pregnant:

  • Has my partner threatened to hurt me if I didn’t do what they wanted with the pregnancy (in either direction – continuing with the pregnancy or abortion)?

If you answered YES to any of these questions, you are not alone and you deserve to make your own decisions without being afraid.

Some parents/caregivers hurt their kids – it happens more than we think. Maybe they:

  • Called you names, didn’t feed you enough, couldn’t love or care for you.

  • Injured you when they punished you or did sexual things to you or made you do things to them.

Where you live and what you saw when you were a kid can affect you too. Like if you:

  • Had a caregiver who was hurt by their partner, they argued a lot, or they had mental health or addiction problems.

  • Faced racism, lived in unsafe places, or were bullied.

Even if some of this or a lot of this happened to you – it isn’t the end of the story.

Science tells us when you are hurt as a kid or as an adult you are at risk for having a hard time taking care of yourself. Let’s change that.

  1. The best way to make it better is to reduce the stress on your body.

    • Exercise – it calms the brain and body and helps you feel better.

  2. It sounds silly, but when you get hurt, your body learns how to hold on to that stress and worry. There’s a way to turn down anxiety when it’s safe.

    • Deep breathing is the key to this. Check out “Tactical Breather”, a free cell phone app to help you feel calm and reminds you how to slow your breathing to help you think.

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